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How do you tell a needy friend that you can’t keep helping them?

I have this friend who is so irritating. I let them stay at my house cause they got theirs sprayed for a mouse. Never heard of you having to leave when that happens. But I let them stay and I had to kick them out last night. Wouldn’t go home. My friend almost cried it was sad to me cause it was a pathetic act on their part. I’m at the point where I don’t want to be friends anymore. I tried to explain you gotta keep your house clean. It’s a mess in their basement. The blame is always put on the neighbors when it’s them. I’m not sure what to do anymore. They get in my way where I have him over and I can’t take the lies anymore. What should I do? Or how would you help them. I try to find other people for them to hang around but it doesn’t work. My other associates end up mad or not wanting him there. Any suggestions of what you would do?

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5 responses to “How do you tell a needy friend that you can’t keep helping them?”

  1. mel23h Avatar
    mel23h

    I would start by helping them or offering to help them clean up a bit or show them how to stay organized. If that doesn’t work then I’d draw a limit as to how nice I am to them. As hard as it is cause I’m one of those with a big heart. But they have to learn

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    1. travelcd Avatar
      travelcd

      I agree with this 👆

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  2. pennyfossett Avatar
    pennyfossett

    Thank you . I’m going to try that. Hopefully it works. That was a great suggestion.

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    1. mel23h Avatar
      mel23h

      Welcome.

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  3. Johnbritto Kurusumuthu Avatar
    Johnbritto Kurusumuthu

    Setting clear boundaries and having an honest conversation with your friend about your concerns might be a good first step. If the issues persist, you may need to consider whether the friendship is healthy for both of you. Prioritizing your well-being is important.

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